Marriage.......A Must Read!!!!!!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you do, share this story with your friends you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Simple and real friend

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself and
doesn't feel even the least bit weird shutting your 'Pepsi drawer'
with her foot!

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend shoulder is soggy from your tears..

A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first Names.
A real friend has their phone numbers In his address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your Party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and Stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after They've gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to Call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your Problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantic History.
A real friend could blackmail you with it!

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when You have an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for Them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

A simple friend reads this e-mail and deletes it..
A real friend passes it on and sends it back to you!

Never frown, even when you are sad,
Because you never know who is Falling in love with your smile

how do you deal with an introvert

Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties,conferences and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?
If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?
If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. Science has learned a good deal in recent years about the habits and requirements of introverts. It has even learned, by means of brain scans, that introverts process information differently from other people (I am not making this up). If you are behind the curve on this important matter, be reassured that you are not alone. Introverts may be common, but they are also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved.... for more plz make short comment...

When love fades away

If you want to be fully successful it's important to know how to choose the right partner to marry.
You must be aware of one thing: "relationships or marriages that has been built on any other thing that is not a common vision of life or a shared vision of life won't last or will be tasteless and you will get tired of it very soon". It goes beyond love only. Love has intensity but a shared vision has duration . If you want to enjoy the relationship and save many problems, like infidelity,boredom, unfaithfulness it's necessary to have it present.
There has been many cases you've heard of in which the husband leaves his wife when he gets more money ,better businesses and replaces her for a younger and prettier woman. What went wrong? It wouldn't have happened if she had shared with him a common vision about their lives. He ever wanted to be successful, but when young needed a woman by his side too. He ever knew she wasn't the indicated, who could understood him fully, but he didn't want to remain alone the rest of his life.
What attracted her to him was his incipient success probably cash, she ever knew it but never went far beyond to understand his lonely soul. Disloyalty starts then. As there's no spark between them, they want to find seasonal affairs.
So far you can't deny it: it's important to share a vision when you get married. If your husband is an entrepreneur businessman never fight against their beliefs like many people could do. If you don't understand him fully, my advice is "search for common guy".
Many relationships are successful because they both share a common vision. No matter if it's not an "ambitious" vision, what matters is aiming for the same things in life. Living the rest of your days with a person who goes through the same experiences is just priceless. for more make a comment plz

Quest for cure

In 1981 a new syndrome capable of destroying the human beings was discovered,this was known as acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS),scientists are working around the clock to combat this world killer virus but in vain though they have managed to come up with alternatives treatments to reduce the impact this virus can cause to its victims and the people affected.
According to the world health organization AIDS is spreading at a higher rate than expected especially among married couples since they found themselves engaged in a sexual network as a result of unfaithfulness, millions of African children had been left orphaned therefore exposed to sexual abuse and drugs.some AIDS victims have searched for cure many have even lured under aged into sex in their quest for cure, others have consulted spirituals leaders and ended up in the pit of hell, one day i shared a word of encouragement of a AIDS victim and her life has never been the same again ,today she is helping many of her peers to regain hope and confidence. We challenge you also to do the same just give AIDS victim a word of affirmation, give them quality time, get them gifts especially to young victims, i mean spread some love.
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Racing against time

Time is the greatest factor that influence the course of events however if not considered strictly there is a possibility of not achieving the intending result, over the years scientists these include engineers , medical consultants, as an information technologist for any software to be efficient and reliable the throughput time which is the time between the request and the response of the system must be treated with care, therefore the throughput time should be minimal this apply also during medical intervention time is key so the question is how do you race against time of course this is costly and involves a lot of risks however a positive attitude plays a great role in this.
here are some advices so you can avoid to go through the hassle of racing against time.
1. plan your day to day activities
2. be realistic
3. seek heaven intervention since God is in charge
4. be cooperative
5. be confident, innovative and use your talents
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drama in my imagination

Today being a Tuesday it was meant to be a busy day for me just because i had to prepare several papers for our clients intending to travel to china for business purpose as i was going about my business my phone rings then receiving the call even without saying hello the other end just start broadcasting a telecommunication company advert, i wonder who gave them the right and permission to temper with my privacy and peace. this part of this era new marketing strategies whereby the consumer or the potential customer has to be bombed with tantalizing advert whether welcomed or not the frenchman says "la raison du plus fort est toujours la meulleur", multinational companies have got billions of dollars in assets and revenues this make them in high position of power to influence government policies even taxes policies. the church has been a place of praise and worship with every decoration reminding us of saints , martyrs and great man of God but this is no more churches have succumbed to the power of multinational company in order share some profits the church must advertize their products on church walls and mega screen whether the congregation like it or not oh what a pity ..... u need more just make a short comment......